“As much as we feel like people wronged us, we wronged ourselves first” –Anesu Whacha
Let us just be honest for a second – we all know how we want to be treated before even getting into any sort of relationship. Now, the question is: why don’t we make it clear from the very start? I guess we all have different answers to that, but I truly believe the main reason we don’t set boundaries upfront is because of fear. The fear of being judged. The fear of being treated differently.
Which is completely insane – because the more we compromise our boundaries, the more we suffer … not the other person.
Growing up, my mother always told me: If you don’t speak up about something you’re not comfortable with, no one will ever know – and you’ll stay uncomfortable until you find your voice.
It’s funny how much we get disrespected, belittled, or even abused while “banking” our voices. We need to stop shutting up. We need to stop letting it go. We need to stop giving people chance after chance to change–while compromising our own sanity and peace of mind.
With that being said: If you want that respect – THOU SHALL SPEAK.
I know that for some of us, it’s hard to say no. It’s hard to clearly set boundaries with people. But hear this: Boundaries are like promises of protection you make to yourself – and we all know that promises shouldn’t be broken.
It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. Because in this case, being selfless will only cause you harm while benefiting the next person. In the long run, you only have you. So treat yourself with dignity and pride. You are not some toy that people can play with. You are not some object people can choose to ignore. And most importantly – you have a voice. So speak up.
A wise person once said, “As much as we feel like people wronged us, we wronged ourselves first.” And here’s why: we set boundaries – a clear sign that we have personal limits – but then we turn around and prioritize other people’s comfort over our own. That opens the door to disrespect. That’s when people start walking all over you.
You’re not responsible for how people act – but how they treat you is up to you. You have full control over your life. So don’t act otherwise. You have a voice – raise your volume.
You deserve respect like everyone else.
People will tell you the same thing I just did.
The rest? That’s up to you.
Don’t let anyone walk over you. Don’t be that guy.